The Secret Map of Your Love: What Synastry Reveals Beyond Compatibility

One of the first questions that arises when love knocks on our door is, almost inevitably, “Are we compatible?” We look to astrology for a kind of verdict, a sign to confirm if we’re betting on the right person. And while that question is valid and natural, as your guide on this astrological journey, I want to invite you to go a step further.

My name is Alejandro Herryman, and I’ve learned that the most powerful question isn’t whether you’re compatible, but: “What is the purpose of our union? What have we come to learn and create together?”

To answer this, astrology offers us one of its most profound and revealing tools: Synastry. And no, it’s not a compatibility test. It’s the secret map of your relationship’s soul.

What is Synastry? The Dialogue Between Two Souls

Imagine that each of you is a unique stellar universe, with your own planets, constellations, and rhythms, all captured in your natal chart. Synastry is the art of overlaying these two universes. By doing so, we can see with astonishing clarity how they interact, what new galaxy they create when they unite.

This map shows us the energetic conversation that exists between you: where there’s natural flow and harmony, where sparks of passion ignite, and also, where your greatest challenges lie—those that act as catalysts for your evolution. Synastry doesn’t judge; it simply reveals the cosmic dance you’ve come to perform together.

Beyond Good and Bad: Understanding Astrological Aspects

On your relationship map, you’ll find different types of connections, called “aspects.” It’s crucial to abandon the idea that some are “good” and others “bad.” In reality, they all serve a purpose.

Harmonious Aspects: The Gifts of the Relationship

Trines and sextiles are the universe’s gifts to your union. These are the areas where energy flows effortlessly. It’s the conversation that never ends, the shared sense of humor, the way your values naturally align. They are the peaceful havens, the mutual admiration, and the unconditional support that feels like coming home. These aspects are the balm that helps the relationship recharge.

Tense Aspects: The Soul’s Gym

Squares and oppositions are, without a doubt, the most interesting points on the map. Often, they are the reason we seek answers in astrology. Far from being “bad omens,” these aspects represent the karmic gym of the relationship. These are the areas where you’ve come to grow, refine yourselves, and evolve together. A tension between Venus and Saturn, for example, can bring lessons about worthiness in love. A square between Mars and Pluto can teach you to consciously manage power and passion. It is in navigating these challenges that the deepest and most resilient bond is forged.

The 3 Key Pillars in All Synastry

While every map is infinitely complex, certain pillars provide fundamental clues about the nature of the connection.

1. The Emotional Bond (Sun-Moon Aspects)

This is the foundation of everything, the heart of the relationship. When one person’s Sun (their essence, their identity) makes a harmonious aspect with the other’s Moon (their emotional world, their needs), a profound feeling of being seen, understood, and nurtured is created. It’s the Yin and Yang of the couple, a connection that brings fundamental security and a sense of belonging.

2. The Spark and the Dialogue (Venus-Mars and Mercury Aspects)

This is the dance of love. The interaction between Venus (love, romance, pleasure) and Mars (passion, desire, action) describes the chemistry and physical attraction between you. On the other hand, Mercury aspects (communication) are vital. They show us whether dialogue flows easily or if conscious effort is needed to avoid misunderstandings and build bridges of understanding.

3. The Karmic Glue (Saturn Aspects)

If the relationship has a long-term purpose, it’s very likely that Saturn is involved. This planet isn’t always comfortable, but it’s the one that brings commitment, structure, and the most important life lessons. Saturn aspects in synastry often act as “karmic glue,” indicating a bond with a deep learning purpose, seeking to build something solid and lasting, even through trials.

There are no “perfect” maps, only unique ones

I want you to remember this: there is no “perfect” synastry that guarantees success, nor a “bad” one that dooms it to failure. Each relationship map is a unique and sacred design for the growth of two souls. The magic isn’t in finding a map without mountains, but in learning to climb yours together, enjoying the valleys and marveling at the view from the top.

Synastry provides you with that manual, that guide to navigate your journey with more awareness, empathy, and love.

If you are ready to stop asking “are we compatible?” and start discovering the “what for” of your union, a Synastry Reading is one of the deepest gifts you can give yourselves as a couple. It’s an investment in mutual understanding and the evolution of your love.

Warmly,