As a high-performance coach, I spend my days speaking with incredibly capable people: leaders, creatives, and entrepreneurs who are designing fascinating futures. And in almost all of these conversations, no matter how successful they are, the same block appears: anxiety about the outcome.
We live in a culture obsessed with control. We believe that if we can manage every variable, anticipate every problem, and force every action, we will guarantee success. But the reality, as we both know, is that this mindset is the direct recipe for burnout.
We push, we optimize, we check the metrics with anxiety, and we try to dominate the future, only to end up exhausted and, often, further from our goal than when we started. Why? Because we are violating one of the most important spiritual laws of the universe: The Law of Detachment.
If you are tired of struggling, if you feel like you’re “doing everything right” but the results aren’t flowing, I want to invite you to explore a different paradigm. A place where clear action replaces control, and where faith becomes the most powerful manifestation strategy that exists.
The Hidden Paradox: Releasing to Receive
The Law of Detachment presents us with a paradox that challenges our modern logic: to manifest what we desire, we must first release our obsession with it.
This is crucial: releasing is not giving up; it is surrendering.
Giving up is an act of defeat; it says, “I can’t, so I quit.” Surrendering is an act of power; it says, “I have done my part with excellence, and now I trust a higher order for the orchestration.”
Energetically, it’s easy to understand. Attachment, neediness, and obsession with the “how” and “when” are frequencies of fear. And fear always contracts energy. When you are attached, you are literally strangling the flow of manifestation.
In contrast, detachment is born from faith. It is the deep certainty that your alignment with purpose is the only thing that guarantees your true power. When you act from this place, your energy expands. You become magnetic.
In my work, I call this “soul leadership” or being the “CEO of your Soul.” The true spiritual leader is not apathetic; on the contrary, they act with impeccable precision and purpose. They launch the project, make the call, speak the truth. But then, they release the outcome. Why? Because their worth and their peace do not depend on external validation. They act from a place of knowing, not from a place of needing.
An Ancestral Perspective: Kabbalah and “Bitachon”
This idea of releasing control is not new. It is a spiritual technology that has been taught by great mystics for millennia. In Kabbalah, my tradition of study, this concept is called Bitachon.
Bitachon is often translated as “trust,” but it is much deeper than that. It is a total certainty in the order of the Light. It is not a mental concept you “think”; it is a spiritual frequency you “inhabit.”
To live in Bitachon is to operate under this premise:
“I know that everything that happens, and everything that doesn’t happen, is perfectly orchestrated for the good of my soul, even if my logical mind doesn’t understand it right now.”
This doesn’t make you passive. It makes you a channel of trust. You continue to take inspired action, but the difference is radical: you act from serenity, not from anxiety. You stop trying to force the Light and instead become a channel for it.
Kabbalah teaches that when we are attached, we worship the form (the money, the relationship, the title) instead of remembering the Source (the Light, God, the Universe). This attachment creates what Kabbalists call klipot: energetic shells that, ironically, block the very Light (abundance, love, clarity) we are trying to receive.
Detachment, Bitachon, is what breaks these shells.
So the next time you feel frustrated, impatient, or afraid of losing something, the spiritual work is not to “do more.” The work is to pause and ask, “What is the Light trying to teach me in this apparent silence or delay?”
In that moment, Bitachon replaces control, and chaos turns into an ordered channel.
The Warrior’s Wisdom: Nishkama Karma from the Bhagavad Gita
This same universal truth is found at the heart of yogic wisdom, specifically in the Bhagavad Gita, through the principle of Nishkama Karma.
In this sacred text, in the middle of a battlefield that symbolizes our own internal conflict, Lord Krishna gives his disciple Arjuna one of the most profound high-performance lessons in history. I’ll paraphrase it here:
“You have a right to perform your prescribed actions, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself the cause of the results, nor be attached to inaction.” (Based on the Bhagavad Gita 2:47)
This is Nishkama Karma: to act with devotion and excellence, without clinging to the result.
It is not indifference. It is purity of intention raised to its highest power. When you act without the neurotic need for a specific reward, your action becomes purified. It becomes an offering. You no longer work to get something; you work from your soul.
You desire progress, of course, but your inner peace no longer depends on it. You follow your purpose (your Dharma), but you are not a slave to the outcome.
The Gita teaches us that, paradoxically, detachment increases performance. Why? Because when you do not fear loss and do not need to win to feel complete, you act from a place of total freedom. Fear disappears, the ego is silenced, and what emerges is the natural flow of your genius, your Dharma.
What Detachment Looks Like in Your Life (Business, Relationships, and Spirit)
The spiritual leader, the “CEO of your Soul,” does not repress desire; they purify it. They don’t seek less, but they *need* less. From Kabbalah, we learn to trust the Light (Bitachon), and from the Gita, we learn to act without expectation (Nishkama Karma).
The resulting formula is simple and elegant: Aligned Action + Emotional Detachment = Manifestation with Grace.
When you live in this frequency, abundance, love, and success stop being goals you chase and become natural consequences of your coherence.
In Your Business and Career
Detachment in business means acting with strategy and decision, but releasing anxiety. You launch the product, you deliver your best work, you present the proposal… and then you let go. You don’t check the metrics every 5 minutes, you don’t sell from fear or lack. Believe me, as a coach, I can tell you: the client feels your energy of neediness before they even read your offer.
In Your Relationships
In love, detachment is the highest form of respect. It is loving without possessing. True love is not born from the need to hold on to someone, but from the freedom to allow them to be who they are. Attachment (jealousy, control, manipulation) dirties love. Detachment keeps it clean and sacred.
In Your Spiritual Life
In your practice, detachment is key. Pray, meditate, visualize with clear and powerful intention. And then… trust. Let it go. Surrender it. Understand that nothing is “taking too long.” Everything is being perfectly orchestrated, even if you can’t see the full script.
How to Know if You’re Attached (The Symptoms of Resistance)
The rational mind hates detachment. It fears letting go of the reins because it confuses control with power. The ego feels that if it lets go, it loses. But it’s the exact opposite: when the ego lets go, your soul can finally take the helm.
Recognize the symptoms of resistance and attachment in yourself:
- Constant anxiety about results.
- A deep need for external approval or validation.
- Obsessive thoughts about “how” you are going to achieve something.
- Fear of losing what you already have, be it a relationship, money, or status.
An Action Plan: Daily Technology of Detachment
Detachment is not a passive state; it is an active practice. Here is a “daily technology” to cultivate this mastery.
1. In the Morning (Alignment):
Before you check your phone, close your eyes and declare: “Today, I release control. I trust the divine order. I will act with clarity and release the outcome.” Feel your energy drop from your mind (anxiety) to your heart (trust).
2. During the Day (Conscious Action):
Take your actions as if the positive outcome were already inevitable. Not from arrogance, but from faith. How would you act if you knew it would all work out? Act like that. Because on another plane, the aligned outcome is already a fact.
3. At Night (Review):
Before sleep, ask yourself: “Where did I get attached today? Where did I feel fear or the need to control?” Don’t judge yourself. Just breathe, visualize that situation surrounded by Light, and mentally let it go. Surrender the worry.
Energetic Correction Mantra (Your First-Aid Kit)
When you feel anxiety or the need to control gripping you during the day, stop. Take three deep breaths.
Visualize that everything you are worried about is already resolved on a higher plane of reality.
And say this mantra:
“I return this to the Divine Order. I trust the process. I walk with clarity, not control. I act with devotion, not demand. The outcome belongs to God. The peace is mine.”
Resume your action only when you feel you have returned to a state of peace, not urgency.
Freedom is the True Manifestation
Detachment does not eliminate your desire. It refines it. It allows you to desire from the expansion of your soul, not from the contraction of your wound.
In Kabbalah, this is having a pure Vessel ready for the Light. In the Bhagavad Gita, it is true Yoga (union) in Action. In your life, it is the definition of true power: power without dependency.
When you no longer need the world to confirm you, validate you, or give you permission, the entire world begins to respond to you in a new way.
Because when you stop chasing, everything starts to seek you.
I know that releasing control is one of the most difficult spiritual jobs. It’s a muscle we must train. If you feel you are ready to stop forcing and start flowing, and you want to use tools like Astrology or Astrocartography to understand your “divine plan” and know when to act and when to trust, I would be honored to be your guide.
We can explore your natal chart together to identify where your true power resides and how to align with it.
Warmly,
Alejandro Herryman
“Alejandro Herryman is an expert in Travel Astrology and Astrocartography, with over 10 years of experience since 2013. After years of study and practice, he has helped countless individuals discover the best places to live, thrive, and find balance in their lives. With a background as a lawyer and entrepreneur, Alejandro decided to follow his true passion for astrology and personal growth. Today, he shares his knowledge and experience to guide others toward the places that most support their life purpose and well-being.”